Monthly Archives: November 2010

10 Signs You Are A Workaholic!

This post at allprodad.com was sent to me in an email from a friend.  I want it to be very clear that I didn’t write this, it is not mine, it is sole property of allprodad.com.  Click here to read this post on their website.  If you are too lazy to click the link, please read the post here.  This is a fantastic list – “10 Signs You Are A Workaholic.”

    Most of us have been taught to “buckle down and get the job done.”  Work ethic is a sought after quality, but in some cases over zealous dedication to work wreaks havoc in other aspects of your life.  When do you know that you have crossed the line to something more destructive? To be a dedicated and productive worker is a very good thing, but there is a fine line between dedication and addiction.  The following 10 signs will help you to determine if you’re a workaholic.

  1. Conversation

    When you’re with friends and family, what types of conversations do you have? If you’re a workaholic, chances are your input will almost surely be work related. Whatever the latest “huge account” you are obsessed with will take center stage. You can manage to waddle through the small talk, but your conversations will always lead back to work. Your existence has been built to revolve around your job.

  2. Who Are Your Friends?

    How is your social life? Are the same people you socialize with also the same people you spend the majority of your life with at work? Friendships are made and last based on common interests. The workaholic is usually not able to connect long term with others outside of his profession.

  3. Control

    Are you able to properly delegate responsibility to others on your team? Can you give up total control and trust workmates to complete an assignment? “If you want something done right, do it yourself.” Do you find yourself saying that in your head even when it’s not true? The workaholic needs total control. To them, nobody could possibly do the task as well.

  4. Crackberry

    You carry it everywhere you go. The Blackberry™ never leaves your side…even in church or on vacation. The thought of missing an important email or tidbit of information worries you to obsession. Your daughter just made an incredible sand castle right in front of your feet. You barely look up to notice and your eyes go straight back to the Crackberry. You need help.

  5. The Roll Over Days

    Your neighbor is complaining that it’s only September and he’s out of vacation days. Every year your wife lobbies her company for more personal days to be with family. You? Last time you checked you had 8½ weeks of rolled over vacation days. The last time you spent an entire week away from your job is when you didn’t have one. You always threaten co-workers that “one of these days I’m going to take the whole month of July off.” You never do.

  6. Desk Cafeteria

    What is inside your bottom desk drawer? Cans of soup, crackers, and pre-packaged tuna lunches? Your desk cafeteria helps rid you of that annoying human trait—hunger. Who has time for lunch? If you work through it you might be able to justify leaving when you are supposed to leave. This way you might catch your son’s ballgame. However if that still isn’t enough, the ballgame goes on the cut list. The workaholic only takes lunches that are business related. Otherwise it’s the desk cafeteria and nose to the grindstone.

  7. I’m Not Sick

    Your nose is completely clogged. Your throat feels like you’re gargling razor blades. “I’m not sick, I just have some allergies.” You pump yourself up with whatever over-the-counter medication you can find that is non-drowsy, and off to work you go. All day long your germs spread through the office like a marauding band of pirates. You might consider your dedication as productive. The ten employees you infected and who are now out sick were never a consideration in your mind. They are just weak.

  8. Middle Of The Night Brainstorming

    It’s 3 am. Your wife is sleeping soundly beside you. You are wide awake trying to figure out the secret to landing the account you are chasing. The hours tick by as you lay in silence brainstorming. Another sleepless night but you think you might have found the edge you needed. Your health and disposition may suffer, but you got what you were after. The workaholic always has trouble sleeping.

  9. Your Roommate

    Do you spend quality time with your wife on a regular basis? Take her on spontaneous adventures? Spend evenings just talking about anything with her? Or has your marriage become more like a roommate situation? You have your life, she has hers.  You just happen to sleep in the same bed. Quite possibly you don’t even do that. Since you are up working late on the computer, it’s easier for you to just sleep in your home office. Your marriage is a shell and at this rate, it might be headed for eventual failure. This is not the type of provider she was hoping for.

  10. Who Are Those Little People?

    You remember your wife being pregnant. You certainly remember them being born. What you can’t figure out is, “Who are these little people making all this noise while I’m trying to work at home?”  “You kids go watch TV upstairs so Daddy can work.” Do you have personal relationships with your children? Do you know who their teachers are and their best friends? What are their hopes and dreams? Looking ahead into the future you’ll ask your son, “I was a good Dad right?” “I provided for everything you ever needed.” Your son will look you in the eye and say “Dad, the only thing I ever wanted was your time, but you were always busy.” That is the fate of the workaholic.

So, are you a workaholic?  I think I failed on 9 out of 10.  I am no officially, depressed.  Guess it’s time to be a better dad, an All Pro Dad.

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Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!  I wanted to post some of the things I am thankful for today.  Seems like an appropriate day for it.Turkey

  • I’m thankful for the first person who saw this bird, and thought to themselves, “I bet, after a few hours in an oven, that is one tasty bird.”
  • I’m thankful for a country that lets me eat turkey if I want to.
  • I’m thankful for being able to watch football and eat turkey at the same time.
  • I’m thankful for toilet paper.
  • I’m thankful for toothpaste.
  • I’m thankful for a home that has heat in the winter.
  • I’m thankful for good friends to share an amazing dinner with.
  • I’m thankful for a family that constantly helps me to grow and become a better man.
  • I’m thankful for a wife who loves me and allows me to be the man God has created me to be.
  • I’m thankful for an amazing staff team to work with at New Life Christian Church.
  • I’m thankful for a healthy church that is striving together to accomplish God’s mission on earth.
  • I’m thankful for mentors who have taken time to pour life experience into me.
  • I’m thankful for a faith that goes beyond religious legalism and manipulation.
  • I’m thankful that God is bigger than my faults and mistakes.
  • I’m thankful for His grace.
  • I’m thankful for His mission.
  • I’m thankful that He has invited me to be a part of His work.

I have so much to be thankful for.  I’m sure I could make this list go on forever.  There’s so much to be thankful for in our world.  So my question for you is; what are you thankful for?  You don’t have to leave an exhaustive list, but maybe your top 2 or 3.  As consumerism knocks at the door of taking over the next 30 days or so of our lives, let’s use this day to slow down and keep a proper perspective on the things that really count in our lives.

Exciting News @ Cultural Awakening!

Hey everyone (by everyone, I mean the three of you who actually read my blog)!

Cultural Awakening is about to undergo some massive design work.  We will be getting a new domain (to be revealed later).  We will be getting a brand new, custom look, courtesy of the creative minds at Imagine Design.  We want to send a huge “Thank You” to them.  There will probably even be a small name change.  I’m very excited about some of the thoughts I have for this blog in the future.

In all honesty, thank you to so many who have read my random thoughts, commented and even debated with me.  Our conversations have sharpened me and have helped make me a better person.

I will post more as developments happen.

Grace & Peace,

Stan Rodda

Like Jesus, 200 Meters at a Time!

Starting LineI grabbed my running gear and headed to the track at Bull Run Middle School.  Two days a week I run with a couple other men from our campus.  Today we were going light, just to loosen up our legs.  Flag football is beginning to take its toll on my old body.  We decide we’re going to run 8 X 200.  In lamen’s terms, we decided to run 200 meters, 8 times.  I enjoy Tuesday and Thursday afternoons because I get to work on keeping my body in shape with two other men who have the same goal.

But we don’t run, just to run.  This is also our group time.  For those familiar with Christianese, you know what I’m talking about.  For those who might not be as familiar with weird, Christian lingo, let me explain what I’m talking about.  These two guys and I have decided to journey through life together.  We don’t force the issue, but when things come up, we are there for each other.  We eat dinner, work out, play football and go to church, together.  It’s an awesome group.

We line up at the start line on the track.  Our “coach” sets his watch and says, “Go.”  The three of us take off at about a 75% pace.  We get done with the first 200 meters and we try to catch our breath.  That’s easier for one of us, but I refuse to say which one.  I take the thirty second break we are enjoying to drop a question that has been consuming me for a couple of weeks now.  In between semi-deep breaths I manage to squeak out, “Question of the day.  What does it look like practically, everyday, to live and be like Jesus?”

Ephesians 4:12, 13 (MSG) – “to train Christ’s followers….until we’re all moving rhythmically and easily with each other, efficient and graceful in response to God’s Son, fully mature adults, fully developed within and without, fully alive like Christ.

Thirty seconds are already up.  How is that possible?  We just started our break, right?  We’ll have to answer after the second, 200 meter leg.  “Go.”

Second leg is over, time for a thirty second break.  In between deep breaths a thought is thrown out.  “I don’t know man.  That’s hard.”  I respond with another question, “Yes, it is.  More specifically, what does it look like for me to be like Jesus in my marriage?  Or as a father?”  Thirty seconds is up.  I think our coach is cutting us off too soon.  I’m still panting.  “Go.”  And the third, 200 meter leg, is over.  Only five more to go.

In between each 200 meter leg and the sounds of deep breathing, the conversation continues.  As the conversation gets deeper, so does the sun.  It begins to go down behind the tree line and pretty soon, it’s gone.  By the eighth 200 meter leg, it’s mostly dark outside with a few school lights and the stars in the sky acting as guides to our feet on the track.  “Go.”  The last 200 meter sprint begins.  Before long, it is over.  All we can hear is the sound of deep breaths.  Our breathe showing up in the cold air as we strain to take in more oxygen.  The walk back to our bags seems much bigger now than it did before we began.  Did someone move our bags?  I don’t remember this walk being this hard.

Hebrews 12:1 (NLT) – “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.”

Our conversation continues, “Well, when I read about Jesus, He seems so selfless.  He didn’t have any self-gratification in His life at all.  And I love my toys.  So maybe if I want to be more like Jesus I need to be more selfless with my stuff.”

“True.  That’s a great point.”

It’s suggested at this point that we stretch out while we talk.  We’re old and have to do that now.

Wedding Rings“What about our marriages?”

“Well, I guess if I’m going to be like Jesus, I should do things for my wife even though I know I won’t get anything in return.”

“No doubt.  That’s a tough one.”

“Sometimes I come home from a long day of work and I’m tired.  I just want dinner, a warm shower and to go to bed, but I know I need to spend time with my kids.  They need me too.  It’s hard to be selfless like Jesus when I’m so tired.  I have a lot of work to do by giving my kids the time they need.”

The practical challenges of being like Jesus begin to manifest themselves to us.  I will speak for the group and say that none of us are “bible scholars.”  We aren’t theologians or philosophers.  We are three guys, trying to understand how to be like Jesus in the 21st century.  And we are going to do that by doing life together and supporting each other in that effort.

“And just to throw this one out there; what does it look like to be like Jesus at play?”

“What do you mean?”

“I mean, on the track or playing football.  How do we be like Jesus there?”

“Oh man.  You might be going too far tonight.  We should tackle that next week.  I’m still stuck on how to be like Jesus in my marriage.”

“And we haven’t even begun to tackle the thought life yet.”

“Oh man.  One thing at a time.”

Three guys, enjoying life and trying to be more like Christ.  I’m willing to place money on one bet.  My bet is this; had I come into these men’s lives and said, “Hey, we’re going to be like Jesus and this is the program by which we’re going to do it,” they wouldn’t have joined me.  The place we are at, as we strive to be more like Jesus, developed out of a relationship strictly born out of where we already were in life.

The conversation moved to one man asking how he could be a better example to his sister.  He wants her to come to church so bad.  How could he effectively share Jesus with her and how his life had been changed by Jesus?  Want to know what I heard, “How can I be an evangelist for Christ?”

The other man in our group is considering going into full-time ministry.  I don’t know what’s going to happen with that situation, but I do know it wouldn’t have happened had we overlooked the importance of simply doing life together.  Want to know what I hear in his story, “I want to make an eternal impact for Christ.”

And in our group…

…there are no lectures.

…there are no judgments.

…there is no condemnation.

Just three men, trying to be more like Jesus.

Jesus reached out to His disciples where they were.  On a boat fishing.  Collecting taxes.  Walking down the road.  I wonder if He were here today, if He would walk onto a track and say to three, crazy men, “Come, follow me.”

Changed lives happen in the course of everyday relationships.

Changed lives happen when Jesus Christ is the foundation of who we are.

Changed lives happened on a boat in the Sea of Galilee.

Changed lives happen on a track in North Virginia.

Mark 1:16, 17 (NLT) – “One day as Jesus was walking along the shore of the Sea of Galilee, He saw Simon and his brother Andrew throwing a net into the water, for they fished for a living.  Jesus called out to them, “Come, follow Me.

How are you meeting people where they are?  Who are you coming alongside to join on this spiritual journey?  Who are you challenging to become more like Jesus?  And in the process, how are you becoming more like Christ?

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